How to avoid intimidating others
Workplace intimidation can stifle productive employees and transform the culture of the entire workplace.Intimidation can take the form of repeated verbal abuse, inappropriate behavior and personal attacks.Yesterday one of the followers of my Facebook page alerted me to a recent ABC news story on bullying.In it, an expert pointed out that people-pleasers are the primary target of bullies, and that most people-pleasers are women.I think that most of us who habitually people-please are well aware that it makes us vulnerable to mean, controlling people, but to hear it said so matter-of-factly was a real a-ha moment for me.People-pleasing doesn't just drain you and prevent you from getting your true needs met.
At the very least, you will not get the most productivity out of your staff; at the worst, you could face going out of business due to a poor reputation and legal issues.
The level of offense depends on your staff--it may take the form of offensive teasing about religious traditions, rude comments, offensive jokes or comments about sex, gender, background, race or affiliation.
When employees feel offended or intimidated at work, their performance is likely to suffer; in extreme cases, they may quit or make legal claims against the company.
In recent years I have managed to significantly (though not totally!
) downgrade my people-pleasing tendencies, and life feels much safer and better. How might you handle yourself differently next time? 2) Know the difference between goodwill and pleasing This isn't about never doing anything for anyone else again.